7 Key Steps to Unshakable Confidence
you remember that day? Perhaps it was your first job
interview. Perhaps you were speaking to a group for
the first time. Maybe you were starting a challenging
new career or meeting a special person for the first
time. Your throat became dry and your knees wanted
were about to leave a place of mental and emotional
safety. You were putting your skills on the line and
taking a risk. If you were successful, there could
be great reward. However, self-doubt was trying to
is essential in our lives; without it, we will not
make the first attempt to do what we really want.
Confidence allows us to move forward despite temporary
discouragement. So where does confidence come from,
and how can we become and remain confident? Here are
seven actions that will help to develop unshakable
Expand Your Knowledge
new skills for any endeavor - personal or career -
is the first step toward confidence. Identify key
areas where you need more confidence to be successful.
Then expand your knowledge by taking courses, reading
books, and attending learning events. Tele-classes
are enjoyable and convenient for learning and discussing
ideas with a peer group. Continuous learning is essential
for maintaining a high level of confidence.
Experience Small Successes
also comes from experiencing small daily successes.
They are like rewards for putting knowledge into action.
They may not be the final goal. Yet they are important.
Even a pat on the back from a colleague or a compliment
for a job well done will boost a person's level of
confidence. Keep track of each small success you experience.
You will begin to feel your confidence grow day by
Exercise Passionate Faith
people have faith that the Creator has a special plan
for their lives. They appear to know inherently that
when they follow this plan, they will be successful.
If you want to achieve something, you absolutely must
believe that it is possible for you. You must believe
firmly in your potential. A passionate faith will
lead you to find and follow that purpose.
Enable Firm Resolve
will be disappointments and set backs. It is natural
to become discouraged at times. However, disappointments
are not the end of the road if we view them as learning
in your abilities will lead you past discouragement
into a firm resolve. Resolve overcomes obstacles because
it displays patience. Instead of giving up, you will
meet challenges by continuing through difficult times.
Keep your mind on your intended outcome, not on the
obstacles. Think of reasons why you can, not reasons
why you cannot.
time, talents develop and abilities grow. Then you
will get a taste of what is possible -- a measure
of success that leads you forward with enthusiasm.
Enthusiasm keeps you fired up to achieve more of those
small daily successes.
Enlist Expert Help
the help of experts in areas where you need more confidence.
Experts can be found though books, articles, videos,
seminars, or via a phone call. A professional coach
will help you stay focused on your objectives and
hold you accountable for taking the necessary actions
to complete your plans.
also attracts more confidence. Experts will support
your plans and offer to help you in tremendous ways
if you are enthusiastic and believe in your goals.
Moreover, when you show confidence in others, they
will show confidence in you.
confidence begins to make confidence real in your
experience. Imagine how you will feel and act if you
already had the confidence you need for a specific
situation. See yourself in your mind's eye, acting
with courage and conviction. Hold that picture in
your mind, and your vision will start to become real.
Expect to be Confident
is faith in action. Now that you have imagined how
confidence will feel, act as if you were already confident.
Move assuredly and energetically as you go for your
goals. You are now seeing, feeling, and acting in
a confident manner. You will achieve what you expect.
Expect to be confident, and you will become confident.
yourself time to increase your confidence by using
these actions during the next several months. Get
a sheet of paper now and write down how you will apply
each of these actions. They can make a tremendous
difference by allowing you to move more quickly and
assuredly toward your objectives. Today, you can begin
developing an unshakable confidence that will bring
you joy and success in every area of your life.
the author: (C) Copyright 2004 by Steve Brunkhorst.
Steve is a professional success coach who assists
individuals to achieve their objectives and lead joyous
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