Do you have friends or family members who have achieved immense success in their lives and you find yourself wishing you could have that the same?  Are you filled with envy toward the people who have everything they want?

Most of us experience these feelings from time to time, but instead of allowing jealousy to make you miserable and negative, you can create your own success.  After all, you are the only person who can control how you define “success.” So instead of spending your time feeling jealous, you can spend your time filling your life with success.

Creating Success for Yourself

Many people spend their lives wondering when success is going to magically appear on their lap but, of course, it never happens this way.  If, instead, we spend less time dreaming and more time building, we’d be much happier and success will be well within our grasp.

Rather than waiting passively for success to whisk you away, it’s time to create your own version of success. When you are proactively taking steps every day, you have a better chance of realizing your goals. After all, it’s far more productive than watching other people achieve success.

A great way to create the successful life you have always hoped for is to set clear, actionable goals. How do you want your life to be defined? What do you want to be doing a year from now, five years from now, or even ten years from now? What sort of goals can you set for yourself that will help motivate you and keep you going in the right direction so you can reach out and grab what you want?

You will want to make sure the goals you set are attainable. The best way to do this is to start with short-term goals that help you work towards your long-term goals. This will help you move forward and build momentum without becoming discouraged. Besides, it’ll help to keep your eye on the prize.  If you set goals that are too ambitious, you will be more inclined to give up before you even get started.

Building a “Success!” Attitude

Your attitude and thoughts determine your success, so make sure they are congruent.  If you have some negative or self-defeating inner dialogues, it will be much more difficult for you to achieve your goals and build the life of success you have always wanted. That’s why it’s a good idea to use the power of positive affirmations to propel you forward.

Affirmations can help people from all walks of life reach great success, even if they started out in the lowest of low places. So remember that success isn’t limited to the rich and famous!

Having a list of affirmations on hand can help you overcome those moments of self-doubt, envy, or even anger that you may feel toward others.  Affirmations are simple thoughts like, “Each simple, completed task propels me towards success,” or, “I am worthy of great success.” These affirmations help to remind you of what your goals are and, in turn, remind you that you are worthy of all you desire, and more!

When you’re young, you have grand ideas about what you’re life is going to be like. Unfortunately, when many people grow up, they forget about these ideas. They get stuck in a dull rut, going to a job they hate, involved in activities they don’t even like. How does this happen? Well, it happens because you let your life control you instead of controlling your life. If you want to have the life you’ve dreamed about, you have to create it. You’re not just going to wake up one day and have everything magically change.

There are 3 steps you can take to live your life with intention and start creating your dream.

The first step is obviously to decide what your dream life is. You need to really think about this.

• What kind of person do you want to be?
• Who do you want to be with?
• Where do you want to live?
• What career do you want to have?
• What skills or hobbies have you always wanted to learn?
• Do you want kids, pets, or a house on the beach?

These are all questions you need to ask yourself. You need to start developing the entire picture. These things may take you a while to decide, so take your time and really think about them. It is your life we’re talking about after all.

The second step is to assess your current life. You need to decide what’s working for you and what’s not.

• Does your current career fit in with your dream life?
• Are you living in the mountains when you’ve always dreamed of being on the beach?
• Do you display the qualities your dream self would have?

Once you decide what doesn’t fit into your dream, you can start to change these things. Obviously some changes may be harder than others, and it may take a while before you can make them. That’s fine, as long as you’re making an effort to create the life you want.

Once you know what you want and what you’re not doing to get there, the third step is all about making changes. All of the choices you make should fit into your new life if possible. If you don’t like aerobics, stop doing it. If you want to learn the guitar, take a class. Rent your favorite movies, eat your favorite food, and buy that sofa you absolutely love. You should surround yourself with people and things you love. You should spend your time doing things you love to do. You should eat what you want to eat and watch what you want to watch. You’ll be amazed at how much time you spend doing things you don’t really like or want to do. It’s easy to be sucked into what you’re supposed to do or what people expect you to do. Forget about all of that and live your life for you.

It doesn’t take much to get in the mindset of “I’m never going to get what I want.” Or “I should just accept that this is what my life is going to be like.” If you think this way, more than likely, you’re going to be right. If you don’t take the steps to create the life you want, then no one else will. You have to be willing to live your life intentionally, not just go with the flow and let things happen to you.